Tuesday, February 15, 2011

I upped my bid, now UP YOURS!

As a member of the Knights of Columbus, my husband has been involved in some tireless fundraising over the last four or five years. Anyone who has ever had to organize a dinner, dance and silent auction, secure volunteers and donors, and then try to sell tickets to the event will understand how exhausting and humbling such an undertaking really is -- which is why we've spent many a sleepless night worrying about how to pull it off.

I'm pleased to report that this past weekend's fundraiser appears to have been a success. (I say "appears", simply because I'm not yet sure of our profit margin, but here's hoping we at least made back a little more than what we spent. Fingers crossed!!)


As for the silent auction portion of the night, we took home some terrific items: 

* memory cards for our many cameras, video recorder, and digital frame

* some sweet dress shirts that my husband can use for work
* a couple of gift certificates for a salon not far from where we live (so that I can finally get my hair cut without feeling guilty for having spent some money)

* not one, not two, but THREE family passes to the Royal Alberta Museum

* a beautifully framed original painting of some chickadees and a bird box (you know, because I'm a bird nerd and just had to have it)

Plus, we also came close to winning the 50/50 draw and some door prizes. (Okay, no we didn't, but at least we tried. Because, after all, you can't win if you don't enter... and at least we can take solace in knowing our money all went to charity.)

So there you have it. We've invested a lot of our own time and money into these events, not to mention those sleepless nights we talked about, so hopefully this will all pay off and help make a difference for those who benefit from our fundraising.

Now, to get a headstart on next year's event...... 

Monday, February 14, 2011

Men doing housework = more sex. Maybe.

On this Valentine's Day, I'm reflecting back on a recent episode of The Talk in which the ladies were discussing this study conducted at the University of Washington. In it, Dr. John Gottman found that "...wives are more likely to get in the mood when men help out with the housework."

One component of the study found that women viewed men who helped out as being "...caring [because they] contribute to the chores," thus increasing the liklihood of sex taking place later in the day. I suppose this is true on some levels, but I tend to agree more with sociologist Scott Coltrane's theory that women are more likely to be in the mood simply because some of their daily responsibilities are alleviated.

Both The Talk's Leah Remini and Holly Robinson-Peete agreed with this latter point as well, and they expressed exactly what I tend to feel most of the time. As in, when I lay down at night, this is what runs through my mind:

Am I ever going to find the time to put away the three baskets of laundry in the livingroom?
I need to sweep the diningroom floor before my daughter chokes on a dust bunny.
I hope it's not too cold out tomorrow because Mickey deserves to go for a long walk.
The fridge is empty; what am I going to pack for my husband's lunch?
It's been more than 48 hours since the last snowfall -- I hope the neighbours don't complain that we haven't shovelled yet.
Could my thighs get any bigger?? When am I going to make it to the gym again?
Did I pay the heating bill yet? Mental note: must review our finances.
Will I ever get to colour my hair again, or am I stuck wearing ball caps forever?

Ahem. So as you see, sex and romance aren't even on the radar these days simply because there are a million other random tasks that eat away at my brain during my waking hours.

But if some of those tasks are taken care of for me, thus allowing me to relax a little.... well, that changes everything.

Sharing is caring, so tell me your thoughts on this study. Do you agree with Gottman or Coltrane... or neither??