Monday, February 14, 2011

Men doing housework = more sex. Maybe.

On this Valentine's Day, I'm reflecting back on a recent episode of The Talk in which the ladies were discussing this study conducted at the University of Washington. In it, Dr. John Gottman found that "...wives are more likely to get in the mood when men help out with the housework."

One component of the study found that women viewed men who helped out as being "...caring [because they] contribute to the chores," thus increasing the liklihood of sex taking place later in the day. I suppose this is true on some levels, but I tend to agree more with sociologist Scott Coltrane's theory that women are more likely to be in the mood simply because some of their daily responsibilities are alleviated.

Both The Talk's Leah Remini and Holly Robinson-Peete agreed with this latter point as well, and they expressed exactly what I tend to feel most of the time. As in, when I lay down at night, this is what runs through my mind:

Am I ever going to find the time to put away the three baskets of laundry in the livingroom?
I need to sweep the diningroom floor before my daughter chokes on a dust bunny.
I hope it's not too cold out tomorrow because Mickey deserves to go for a long walk.
The fridge is empty; what am I going to pack for my husband's lunch?
It's been more than 48 hours since the last snowfall -- I hope the neighbours don't complain that we haven't shovelled yet.
Could my thighs get any bigger?? When am I going to make it to the gym again?
Did I pay the heating bill yet? Mental note: must review our finances.
Will I ever get to colour my hair again, or am I stuck wearing ball caps forever?

Ahem. So as you see, sex and romance aren't even on the radar these days simply because there are a million other random tasks that eat away at my brain during my waking hours.

But if some of those tasks are taken care of for me, thus allowing me to relax a little.... well, that changes everything.

Sharing is caring, so tell me your thoughts on this study. Do you agree with Gottman or Coltrane... or neither??


  1. Does my comment on your previous post apply to this one as well?

  2. Haha... yes, a repaired toilet and an un-dented dishwasher would do it for me too. :)